May 12th, 2008 Smyrne
Jane was nearly 40 years old when she came to see me for poor self-esteem. Despite her achievements, she never felt good about herself and was unable to sustain a relationship with a man.
She attributed much of her difficulty to her father, whom she described as angry and judgmental. “It seemed everything I did was never quite good enough for him,” she said.
Naturally, she internalized these criticisms and spent much of her life feeling flawed.
After a few months, she agreed to invite her father in for a session. When he came in with Jane’s mother, he did seem angry and short-tempered. He said for most of his life he had had “a short fuse” and didn’t take much joy in anything.
After further exploration, I suggested that he was depressed and had been most of his life. I explained that his irritability, along with his pessimism and negative worldview, were classic symptoms of depression.
Unfortunately, he disagreed with me and refused to get a second opinion. Read the rest of this entry »