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Intelligence is complex and multi-faceted, and it cannot be summed up in a single concept. The type of intelligence that is the easiest to investigate is logical-mathematical intelligence, but the intelligence of a human being is much more than that, and it would be silly to limit ourselves to that alone. Thanks to the advent of modern psychology, the concept of intelligence has also been extended to the subjective and personal skills that are part of the emotional sphere. A person may not be very capable of scoring well in classical intelligence tasks, those based on tests of logic, but may in any case possess rare psychological capabilities such as the ability to easily recognise their own and others' emotions, achieving a deep understanding of the motivations behind human behaviour and cause and effect relationships between the intra-psychic and interpersonal world. So-called emotional intelligence, unlike logic and mathematics, never stops increasing. It can be nurtured and enhanced throughout life, leading to a gradually increasing awareness of ourselves and the world around us. A person who is emotionally evolved, in other words intelligent, is one that can grasp the most profound messages sent by others, messages that sometimes even the senders are not aware they are sending.

1 - When you feel a sense of inner discomfort (e.g. sadness, fear, uncertainty), apparently unrelated to objective factors, what do you do?
You drive out the bad thoughts immediately, thus avoiding paying attention to them
You analyse the situation rationally and tell yourself that there is no reason to worry
You take time to understand what emotions you are feeling and their significance

2 - You become aware you feel a sense of discomfort and irritation with a friend who perhaps did not behave properly towards you. What do you do?
Put an immediate end to the friendship
Friendship is too important so you try to forget what he/she did
You wonder what you might have done wrong to have caused his/her reaction
You put yourself in his/her shoes to understand what motivated his/her reaction

3 - Have you ever become aware that you have behaved badly towards someone, after a few days, months or years?
No, I never behave badly
No, but it may be that I realise the other person has made a mistake
Yes, but rarely; usually it’s not my fault
Yes, it happens to me; I always try to become aware of my mistakes

4 - How do you feel when someone apologises sincerely to you for having behaved badly in your regard (for example, after having falsely accused you)?
Satisfaction: it confirms that I was right
Anger: If I had listened you it would not have come to this
Affection: you realise that this person cares about you
Serenity: this person has understood you

5 - Do you think you know the people around you (friends, family, partners) well?
Yes, absolutely
Yes, but people are complex and can amaze you
Yes and no: I think I know them, but I am not conceited enough to think I can predict their actions
No: I do not even think I know myself well enough

6 - What matters most among the things listed below?
Being admired
Being respected
Being loved
Being listened to and understood

7 - What is the most important aspect of friendship among the following?
Not being alone
Having fun together
Sharing experiences

8 - You become aware that the person in front of you is inflexible, schematic and not very tolerant, and seems unable to accept your point of view. What do you do?
I tell him/her what I think of him/her in a direct manner
I keep calm and gently insist on my point of view
I give up considering his/her narrow-mindedness and change the subject
I seek a more effective way of communicating with him/her, even if this is a big effort

9 - If you had to choose your partner between two people, how would you make your choice?
I would analyse the strengths and weaknesses of each of them and choose accordingly
I would choose the one whose character is closer to my own
I would choose the one who sees me in a more mature and realistic way
For me it is not a choice: I would follow my feelings and emotions

10 - In your opinion, in life, is it better to choose in an analytical and rational, or in an instinctive and emotional manner?
Absolutely in an analytical and rational manner
In a rational way without entirely neglecting feelings
Always and only following emotions and instinct
Mainly following emotions, but without being blinded by them

11 - Do you easily forget a wrong you have suffered?
Absolutely not
Yes, I immediately forgive
No, the first thing I want is to understand what happened
It depends, I would firstly like to understand the other person's point of view

12 - In your scale of values, what is the most important aspect among the following?
To succeed
To achieve my goals
Being able to understand others
To be listened to and understood

Psychology and psychotherapy
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